There is a special sort of rut I get into when I am comparing myself to others. The rut that says, “She is prettier.” or “If I looked like her, I wouldn’t still be single.”
It’s my favorite rut to sink into and stay there.
I get such good self-pity time sitting in the rut of unworthiness and not good enough.
Do you know this place?
I’ve come to terms with the fact that the emotions underneath the beliefs of not good enough and unworthiness are real, but the beliefs that fuel them simply aren’t.
Learning to acknowledge the fears and doubts without fully giving them all of the power has been a challenging task to do.
But as I see the pattern more and more of collapsing into negative beliefs, I have more tools to break the cycle and heal the pattern.
I have more substance to build a foundation of my worthiness, strength, and beauty off of.
I can refocus my thoughts and look for evidence of the new beliefs that I want to hold.
I can hold the doubts and fears tenderly and tap into deep and compassionate self-love.
I am not saying I always choose that adventure.
Because sometimes it just feels good to throw the pity party.